在現實生活中, 我們同樣不斷地透過真實狀況在回答測驗題, 或查看別人的回答; 和同事約吃飯時, 就可以看出誰豪爽誰大方誰體貼誰龜毛誰誰出爾反爾, 到了吃飯場子裡, 就很清楚誰不吃牛肉誰愛吃蝦不愛剝殼誰吃麻辣鍋一定要配上大碗蔥花, 有些答案沒有所謂加分減分(不過誰曉得? 也許只是時候未到), 有些雖有但權重不高, 有些答案則讓人一夕之間決定調整相處方式.
如果不考慮這流轉人世的變遷, 人和人之間的關係大體上就這樣慢慢修正磨合而成型, 相識相處的日子久了, 單次測驗結果對於這個關係的影響也就不那麼大, 就像丟銅板的次數如果多了, 連續幾次丟出正面, 對於趨近50%的比例並不會有什麼影響, 所以老同學老鄰居的關係不容易變, 家人更不用說.
除非出現某些關鍵性的狀況, 打鬧了十幾年的同學在一次旅行中發現對方不應該只是朋友, 或者同事攜手創業後才發現對方只能同甘不能共苦.
也許可以把這些關鍵性的狀況稱之為考驗.
有趣的可能不在於什麼狀況算是考驗, 或是如何面對考驗(亦即回答這個測驗題), 而在於怎麼看待考驗的出現這件事, 杜蘭朵公主要選駙馬, 可以主動提出一個考驗, 徵求全天下有志青年前來接受考驗, 我們呢? 我們要怎麼對待我們的家人同學鄰居朋友同事? 我們的老師或主管呢? 知交好友的心儀對象呢? 除了主動提出考驗, 我們也可以平常心看待上天安排的考驗, 甚至可以極力避免考驗的出現, 例如男友負笈他鄉求學就跟著到他鄉去找工作, 當然人生是隨機的, 刻意提出考驗或避免考驗, 都無法預知世上太多的或然可能會排列組合出什麼樣的下一個狀況, 甚至下一個考驗.
於是人和人之間的關係一直在變, "原來阿某會貪小便宜貪到犧牲生活品質啊"的發現, 或許不影響在實驗室裡的相處, 但是如果有熟稔的學妹覺得"阿某學長人好像不錯"而前來打聽時, 會不會影響回答? 我如是待人, 人亦如是待我.
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Love matching, travel pal matching, or friend matching are very similar on the selection system: asking questions about some assumed situations and matching people according to their answers. In our daily life, we answer real situations everyday; so do our friends. When colleagues discuss the restaurants, we'll learn Jean is gentle, Kelly is generous, Lisa is mean, Helen is active, and Amy always go back on her word. In the gathering, we also find Tim doesn't eat beef, Joe likes green onion in his soup, and Kevin usually keeps his table neat. Some answers are neutral (but who knows?), some might plus or minus without high weight, and some could make us change the way to treat someone.
For the friends we know for a long long time, it's not so significant. If we flip a coin 10000 times, the ratio of heads will be very closed to 50%. The result wouldn't change even we get 10 more continuous heads.
Unless the critical situation happens. Two classmates could fall in love in a travel after they've known each other for more than 10 years. Oppositely, two ex-colleagues might sever their 20-year friendship when they quit and began their own business. Maybe we can call the critical situation "challenge".
Do we need to created or prevent challenge to our friends? our neighbors? our family? how about our boss or adviser? how about the guy pursuing our sister? Well, life if life! No matter what we do or don't do, the new situation happens itself.
Thus, everyone is always taking the test. We check people's answer all the time when people check ours.
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